Happy Valentine's Day

Happy Valentine’s Day 🖤 whether you are in a relationship, single, middle ground purgatory or simply complicated (le sigh), I really hope you savor the day. I mean, every day, but this day is a good reset for remembering to do it on the daily.

As a romantic person who has had a closed door on romantic love for, well basically forever, I knew quickly, young, that if I wanted those experiences I would have to do them myself. Hopefully with a partner one day, but if I had waited for that specific relationship to do anything in my life, I wouldn’t be here.

That’s why you see me being ridiculous on a Tuesday lunch, a cocktail at night, elaborations instead of quick and convenient. Cigars outside for hours to let the mind wander to the vast galaxies in my mind. I want the seconds to last longer and moments to fill my body until it overflows. Make the table. Invite the friends. Take the trip. Buy yourself flowers. Hike to the waterfall. Chase the sun. Read for hours in bed and run the goddamn bath. Follow the pings, that intuition. Make and do the things for yourself that you want to do with someone.

Say the things to the people when you feel them. Be scared and let them in anyway. Lick the wounds and embroider the scar when your light reveals the shadows they’re not ready to work through. Love your community. Let them love you. As much as it makes you want to vomit, keep your bleeding, bruised, godforsaken heart open. Make your life the one you’ve always wanted to live. And love anyway